Showing posts with label Tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Tips. Show all posts

Monday, June 8, 2009

Single Women



"I've sometimes thought of marrying, and then I've thought again."
- Cass Daley

When women's suffrage really began to take hold in this country, aside from voting, certain other rights were afforded women that had previously been reserved strictly for men. Not only legal rights, but social norms as well began to change rapidly. Women, previously subordinate to men in all aspects of public life, suddenly began to claim a sovereign status.

The roaring '20s saw flappers and the '40s saw women pitching in for the war effort. All of this placed single women on the ascendant. With the pendulum swinging in favor of independence -- as marriage lost its monopoly on determining a woman's availability -- it became more difficult for men to identify who was single and who was a waste of their wooing ability.

The lack of a ring, or a pin on a sweater, is no longer the signal that a woman is interested. Men have to do a great deal more research into the lives of that creature known as the single woman.

Single Women on AM

The dating world has been changing for a long time. Women are independent creatures who want to maintain their femininity. They wish to maintain the civility of the past and combine it with a modern sense of independence and equality. This is powerful camouflage. And this is why AskMen.com is here to help you learn to identify and meet modern single women.

Single Women Fact

A man's physical appearance isn't all that important to a single woman; in fact, physical appearance consistently ranks lower than honesty, loyalty, intelligence, since of humor and employment status when surveyed

Saturday, May 30, 2009

User Post: Sunscreen Sense


Tis the season to lather up...here's all you need to know about protecting your skin this summer
Susan Crandell, BettyConfidential.com

There's not a woman in America who doesn't know the perils of tanning (skin cancer, wrinkles, sun spots) - and precious few who aren't still tempted to tan. If you crave a summery glow, use a fake tanner (with subtler shadings, they no longer make you look like a hot dog) and slather on the sunscreen whenever you're outdoors. And remember, even if you have darker skin naturally, you still need sunscreen to protect against skin cancer.

Checklist for Sunscreens

UVA/UVB Protection. UVA rays cause wrinkles, freckles and spots. UVB rays cause sunburn. Both can cause skin cancer. Sunscreens work by absorbing, reflecting or scattering these rays, using ingredients such as zinc oxide, titanium dioxide and mexoryl, which provide protection against both types. Check the ingredients list or look for sunscreens labeled "broad spectrum UVA/UVB."

SPF. Sun Protection Factor numbers rise from 4 up into the stratosphere. Don't fall into the trap of thinking that a 30 sunscreen will allow you to stay in the sun twice as long. In reality, SPR 15 blocks 93% of UVB rays; SPF 30 blocks 97%. (Ratings for UVA protection are due out this summer.) Some skin professionals recommend 15 or above, but why not go for the gold and get a 30 SPF screen.

Application. The classic advice from the American Academy of Dermatology is a full ounce (think shot glass) for a whole-body application. That's a lot of sunscreen, so apply what you think you need, and then a whole bunch more. If you're using one of the new spray-on screens, make sure you can see it glistening all over your skin, that you haven't left any dry spots. Ideally, apply half an hour before you go outdoors.

Sweating, swimming and rubbing yourself dry afterward are just a few of the things that can cut into your protection. If you're engaging in outdoor activities, look for "water-resistant" (40 minutes staying power) or "very water-resistant" (80 minutes).

Reapply sunscreen every two hours, even on cloudy or hazy days and even under a shirt (a typical white T-shirt has a measly SPF of 3). And don't forget your UVA/UVB protection sunglasses too; these rays can damage the cornea and contribute to the development of cataracts.

5 Things Keeping You From a Flatter Stomach


One thousand crunches a day? Don’t waste your time. Instead, the best way to get a flatter stomach involves a few clever changes to your diet and workout…and about 970 fewer sit-ups.

By Jenny Bailly

The quest for flat abs knows no shame (or too much indolence). For proof, behold the Abs in a Box kit. It contains semipermanent body stain, eight shadow and highlighting powders, and a booklet explaining how to use the above to create a six-pack—all for $69. Which would be a bargain if those abs were real. But attaining flat abs isn’t a matter of painting by numbers—or even of executing a mind-numbing series of crunches. Consider this: Stomach flab is easier to lose than the padding on your butt and thighs; commit to shedding a few pounds, and the ones around your waist disappear first. Once they’re gone, a judicious mix of ab moves can carve out smooth, visible muscles over time—and not just for the genetically preprogrammed. Here, five ways to create your own (genuine) ab masterpiece.

Problem: You have too much fat all over.


You could have Jessica Alba’s muscle structure and nothing to show for it if you’re carrying around extra pounds. “No one’s ever going to see those strong muscles as long as a layer of fat sits on top of them,” says personal trainer Gunnar Peterson, who works with Jennifer Lopez and Gisele Bundchen. Interval training is the most effective way to exercise. A study in the International Journal of Obesity found that women who put in 20 minutes on a stationary bike three times a week—but alternated 8-second bursts of speedy pedaling with 12-second rest periods— trimmed more from their midsections over 15 weeks than those who cycled at a slower, but steady, pace for 40 minutes. Researchers believe that interval training triggers the body to release adrenaline, a hormone that tells the body to burn stored fat—which is often found in the stomach area.

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Problem: You’re eating the wrong food


Without the right diet, even the most rigorous cardio regimen is useless. “That means cutting calories,” says Susan B. Roberts, a professor of nutrition and psychiatry at Tufts University in Boston and author of The Instinct Diet (Workman Publishing Company). And there are tricks that help, too. Drinking coffee—when part of a weight-loss diet—may also trim the stomach slightly, and the caffeine may speed up the metabolism. Roberts suggests one to three cups of coffee a day.

Dairy’s role in weight loss is controversial (some studies have shown a strong connection; others haven’t). On the pro side: In a University of Tennessee study, overweight adults on a low-calorie diet who had 1,100 milligrams of calcium daily lost 81 percent more stomach fat than those who got only 400 to 500 milligrams of calcium per day. Getting three daily servings of dairy is a reasonable goal, says Michael B. Zemel, director of the Nutrition Institute at the University of Tennessee.

What to avoid? White, starchy carbohydrates top the list. People who chose white bread over whole grains gained about half an inch around the middle every year, according to a study from the USDA Human Nutrition Research Center on Aging at Tufts University.

Eating more of these foods will help you shed pounds.

Problem: You’re doing the wrong moves


“Crunches only work the superficial muscles at the front of your torso,” says Shawn McCormack, director of and head instructor at the Body, a Manhattan fitness studio. “They don’t do anything for the muscles that run around the entire core of your body like a corset, or the oblique muscles along your sides.” These are the muscles that act like your body’s own Spanx, drawing your midsection up and in. One of the best ways to strengthen them is by holding a simple plank position. For an extra challenge, lift your hips up an inch or two and then move them back.

Pilates moves are powerful ab sculptors, says Michele Olson, professor of exercise physiology at Auburn University in Montgomery, Alabama. In a study pitting mat-based Pilates moves against crunches, the Pilates exercises were all more effective on the abs than crunches were. Crunches can still be one part of your routine, but doing them ad nauseam is an exercise in futility. Two to five sets of 15 to 20 reps are plenty.

Problem: You only use your abdominal muscles rarely

Whether you’re on the treadmill or doing push-ups, your navel should feel like it’s being pulled toward your spine as your ribs drop slightly toward your pelvis. “Breathing deeply, in through your nose and out through your mouth, is the best way to keep your core muscles contracted and engaged in any workout,” says Laurie Cole, an instructor at SoulCycle, a cycling studio in New York City. And it should extend beyond the gym. “My abs are always activated,” says personal trainer Kacy Duke. This not only strengthens the torso over time but also improves posture, which instantly minimizes bulges.

7 fitness tips from one of Hollywood's hottest celebrity trainers.

Problem: Your genes aren’t solely to blame.

Fat distribution is at least 30 percent—maybe as much as 60 percent—determined by genetics. But biology isn’t necessarily destiny. Though scientists have identified specific genes that affect the propensity to store fat around the middle or in the hips and thighs, any gene pool can be overcome. “You’ll probably have to do more work to maintain a flat stomach, but biology doesn’t rule how you exercise or what you eat,” says Olson.

Sunday, February 22, 2009

Dating Tips from a FHM Girl



Body Language is everything! If you are talking to me and I am interested, I would not have my arms crossed and would not be turned away, I would be more opened up to you. I also would be making great eye contact.

What should a guy say when he meet you?
I love it when a guy has confidence and comes up with something very witty to say to me. It starts the conversation on a very light and easy note. Plus makes me laugh, and I have always believed that's a way to a girl's heart!

Where should a guy take you on a first date?
On the first date, do an activity and dinner. By activity I mean go play putt-putt golf, race go-carts or even to an arcade! It's fun and active, yet gives you a chance to socialize and get to know each other. Don't go see a movie on a first date, there is no room to get to know the person!
Describe your worst date.

I guess I have been pretty lucky, I can't think of a date that really was that bad?

Describe your best date.

One of my best dates was a little extreme, however that's probably why it stands out so much! The guy I had been dating for a while told me he had a special day planned for me. So he came in the morning and picked me up and blindfolded me and when he took off the blindfold and we were at the airport! I had no clue where we were going until we got to the gate! He ended up taking me to San Diego because I had these two restaurants (Breakfast and a dinner place!) that I have always talked about. He wanted to take me to my two favorite places and the beach! Couldn't get any better than that!

What are your Do's and Do Not's for first date conversations?
I love when a guy take the initiative and asks questions to get to know me. I really enjoy when conversations stay light and playful. Definitely let the sense of humor shine through! Remember, the way to a girls heart is making her laugh! ;) I really don't like when the guy talks about his ex's or asks me about my ex's. It's your past, leave it there!

How long after a guy gets your number should he call or text:?
I don't think there's truly set amount of time you should wait. However, I personally don't like it when they contact me the same day. It seems a little to desperate, but I am more than OK when they contact me within the next day or two!

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Success Tips From Abraham Lincoln

Abraham Lincoln was born into abject poverty 200 years ago. At any other time and place, this lowly origin would have dictated his future, but his self-determination would assure his seat in his country’s history and almost single-handedly created the prototype of the self-made American.


The bicentennial of his birth this week has led to a renewed interest in all things Lincoln, but of course that’s not the only reason. In his November victory speech, President Barack Obama said: "We are and always will be the United States of America." With that one word -- united -- he invoked the full scope of Abraham Lincoln’s achievements and firmly established the direct relationship between the two men. Yet, precisely what is that relationship?


In short, Abraham Lincoln’s presidential achievements cleansed the Declaration of Independence of its glaring hypocrisy regarding equality and vindicated its revolutionary democratic principle: that the people have the power to elect as leader the citizen of their choosing, whomever that might be.


Although matching the specifics of Abraham Lincoln's career might not be a fair standard to set for oneself, we can still be informed by his general tenor and character. To that end, we offer the following professional success tips from Abraham Lincoln.

In communication, be brief and direct



Edward Everett was a renowned orator, and in 1863, at Gettysburg, he spoke for over two hours. His florid rhetorical style was typical of the era, and that speech is all but forgotten. Lincoln spoke for just three minutes; his style was lean and his message direct. With the exception of Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount, Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address is likely history’s most influential oration.


Presidential pointer:

Long-windedness -- in a presentation or an e-mail (who knew that success tips from Abraham Lincoln would extend into the digital era?) -- signals pretentiousness and egotism. It ignores one’s audience and waters down your message. Honesty and brevity, meanwhile, combine to produce direct and high-impact communication while giving the impression of being forthright, efficient and selfless.

Don't succumb to intimidation



Prior to his assassination at Ford’s Theatre in 1865, Abraham Lincoln survived at least three direct attempts on his life, and endured a constant stream of death threats -- and he did it without the benefit of an organized Secret Service detail. If he was rattled by any of them, he didn’t let it show -- not in his activities and not in his policies.


Presidential pointer:

Intimidation and bullying, they are both methods of getting you to change your mind or your stance based on fear rather than principle. Giving in to intimidation subverts your ability to lead and negotiate while giving your opponents leverage to use against you. Whether you follow this rule as one of the success tips from Abraham Lincoln or one of the mafia tips from Al Capone, doing so will only leverage your credibility in the public's eye.

Keep your enemies close



One of the categories scholars use to rate presidents is their appointments (who they pick to help carry out their policies). Abraham Lincoln’s cabinet appointments were not only shrewd, but almost a who’s who among 1860 presidential hopefuls. In fact, he installed no fewer than five of his former political opponents: Edward Stanton, Simon Cameron, Salmon Chase, William Seward, and Edward Bates.


By way of comparison, the last four presidents appointed no more than one or two of their former rivals to their administration (obviously, they weren't paying attention to the success tips from Abraham Lincoln). President Barack Obama, meanwhile, has already appointed three (counting Bill Richardson).


Presidential pointer:

There are clear professional advantages to this success tip from Abraham Lincoln. When you keep your opponents close, not only can you keep tabs on them, but by presenting a united front -- among a team, department or company -- you also carry more clout, and you can still exploit their skills and benefit from their networks.


Be open to change



In The Nation, professor Eric Foner wrote that "the Lincoln we should remember is the politician whose greatness lay in his capacity for growth.”"


By 21st century standards Lincoln was a racist, but he opposed slavery because it violated the principle of equality in the Declaration of Independence and because it deprived people of their inherent right to be compensated for their work. Yet he disagreed with abolitionists who sought full and immediate emancipation; he favored a gradual plan, one that compensated slave-owning Southerners for their loss of "property." As the Civil War raged on, he realized the enormous political and strategic value of full and immediate emancipation. Thus, when he issued the proclamation, it debilitated the Southern economy and bolstered his own military, as 200,000 blacks joined the Union Army.


Presidential pointer:

In his victory speech, President Barack Obama said: "That's the true genius of America: that America can change. Our union can be perfected." In any area of your professional life, be open to change and to the ideas of others. By exploring them, you can uncover unimagined opportunities and inspire others to do the same. There is only room for improvement so long as you are looking for it.

Seize opportunities for leadership



Lincoln redefined the role of the chief executive. In a time of crisis, he asserted its intrinsic authority in a variety of ways, not all of them popular -- or even legal. While Congress was out of session, he conscripted an army and went to war, a violation of Article VI of the Constitution. He also suspended the writ of habeas corpus so he could detain thousands of potential enemies, violating that same document’s 5th Amendment right to due process.


To Lincoln, the Constitution was of no value if the Union it governed came apart, so he positioned himself as its chief arbiter, relegating the other branches of government to supporting roles. Many saw him as a dictator, but he achieved his goals of abolishing slavery and preserving the Union -- results that are difficult to argue with.


Presidential pointer:

Don’t allow your job description to fully define your job, especially during times of crisis when people are looking for someone to step up and assume a leadership role. While we can't advocate the breaking of laws or the violation of company policy, a look at Abraham Lincoln's life can encourage you to embrace a wider vision of possible solutions, one that isn’t restrained by unrealistic or outdated policies.

big plans stir the blood



Extant photos of Lincoln portray him as awkward and serious, but he was a brilliant storyteller, a gifted orator and a natural leader whose political acumen scholars routinely rank at the top. These qualities projected -- and instilled -- confidence when it was needed most. After all, 1861 seems like an awful time to seek the presidency: the winner would inherit decades of differences that were ready to split the nation apart.


Yet Lincoln sought it anyway, and he very easily could have been America’s goat. Instead, he’s its axis point -- the place where the citizens of the first democratic nation in history to be free, equal, and multi-racial, are able to unite and rediscover their common ground.



Saturday, January 17, 2009

Pursuing Successful Women


Success is clearly intimidating; why it’s intimidating is much less clear. The idea that somebody else (mainly somebody else of the fairer sex) got things figured out better than we did seems to scare us. What should really scare us is that our fear can keep us from some great experiences.

Success in a woman can mean many things: Many women define their success as a product of their home life or their ability to counsel their friends. The success this article addresses is of the career variety: the type of driven, smart and able women that thrive in the business world. Successful career women may be partners-in-training at their law firms, CEOs of a company or editors of popular magazines. However, they all know how to take charge and get things done. This seems to be the most intimidating of all.

Instead of being afraid of pursuing successful women, embrace their success as part of what makes them so attractive. Whether you’ve hooked a top woman and don’t know how to handle her or you’re a guy who’s interested in finding one, don’t be threatened, instead take it as a challenge to get such capable women interested in becoming involved with you. Use the following tips to bolster your ability to woo while pursuing successful women.

Know where to find them

Women who are go-getters want to spend their time in valuable ways, since they likely have precious little of it. They won’t be hanging out just waiting for Prince Charming. This means when you're pursuing successful women you may have to show a bit of ingenuity when seeking them out.

One of the most popular places to find powerful people these days is the gym. Women who have control of their careers tend to also be ones who have control of their lives and bodies, and like to stay fit and healthy. So if you're pursuing successful women make sure you prowl the weight rooms, but be careful: There are a few pitfalls to this plan. Women don’t want to feel stalked while they’re trying to do their morning workout. Approach successful women carefully so as to seem casual, and don’t be too pushy.

You could also look in the places that a business woman is apt to go in the course of her day. Check bars and restaurants in the business district and hit the dinner hour -- just as the work day ends. Try the line at the coffee bar early in the morning or the streetcar during rush hour. The trick with these busy times is to find successful women when they're idle, and strike up a conversation. This way you’re more confident, and you’re not holding her up as she rushes about.

Court her

Although you may see successful women as powerhouses, they're still women and want to be treated as such. Whether you’re just trying to get a date when you're pursuing successful women or you’ve been out a few times, don’t be afraid to offer her your jacket, hold a door or pick her up for a date.

Pursuing successful women doesn't have to be intimidating Successful women are fully capable of doing these things for themselves, but everybody likes to be taken care of sometimes. She likely works in a hard-nosed, male-dominated and stressful workplace. So when you're pursing successful women take the opportunity to make them feel pretty and special. You've dated women before, you know what they want -- just relax and have fun.

Respect her career

Successful women don’t get to where they are by being overly compromising about their careers. Her career matters to her, and if you make her choose between you or her career when pursing successful women, you may just lose. If you’re trying to win a date, show some interest in what she does. Listen and ask questions -- this rule stands even if you’ve been dating for a while. Successful women spend a great deal of their time at work, so to know their career is, in large part, to know them. Don’t start whining or pouting about her working late. She will make time for you in her own way, and making her feel guilty about working late will put more stress on her, and the relationship you're trying to build.

Don’t show intimidation

Even if you have no idea what to say when pursuing successful women, be cool. Not many people want to date somebody who’s afraid of them, and even fewer want to date somebody who lacks confidence. No matter how formidable she may seem, take the reigns and talk to her. Be sure in who you are and what you say. Speak your mind, be honest and engage her in great conversation about things that matter to you: books, movies, sports or even politics. Successful women don't want to be seen as business moguls when they're on dates; they want to be seen as attractive women.

Take charge

Don’t be afraid to make a decision when pursing successful women. Just because she knows what she wants, that doesn’t mean she wants to decide how the entire date will go. Chances are she’s in control all day long. Take a load off by being the one to decide what you’ll be doing for the evening. Feel free to suggest a restaurant for your outing. This doesn’t mean that you should disregard her opinion. Just don’t be wishy-washy and indecisive.

rise to the top

Women have fought for more influence in the workplace over the past several decades. Some of them have fought hard. So it must be awfully discouraging to fight tooth-and-nail to become more successful in a career, only to find out that doing so will make romantic life a complete failure. It's time we men proved that successful women not only have a place in the workforce, they also fit quite nicely in our personal lives too.